It all started with a sandwich recommendation. According to a friend of mine I’d been missing out on a fantastic submarine sandwich experience at this little place in town called “Stewie’s”. My buddy said I’d never think of a sub the same way again if I went there. Obviously I had to go try it out! The first thing I noticed when I walked in was that the subs offered were not the same as those well known subs serving restuarants (you know who I’m talking about) This quaint shop offered things called “El Diablo” and “The Muffaletta” The names were tempting enough, if the sandwich measured up to the name this was going to be fun!
I was having trouble choosing but finally settled on “The Muffaletta” after my taste buds reminded me of the real muffaletta sandwich I’d enjoyed about 4 years ago in New Orleans. I ordered it so I wouldn’t change my mind and then stand there for another five minutes re-deciding. I paid the nice lady and sat down to wait (can you hear me clicking my nails on the table?). It smelled soooo good in there.
Now I don’t know if you do this but I have to look around wherever I am. I like to absorb the decor and atmosphere of a place. Pretty sure it’s the artist in me looking for inspiration wherever I go. I found some! As I looked around I noticed quotes on the walls, the counter top, and even hanging on the side of the soda machine. One in particular caught my attention and held it as I mulled over the few simple words that said so much.
“Your beliefs don’t make you a good person, your behavior does”
After I absorbed what I’d just read I found myself thinking over my own personal behavior over the past few days. What kind of person am I? Do my actions portray my belief system or do they paint a different picture? I wish they perfectly portrayed my beliefs but the truth is I could use some growth in that respect. I’ve judged others before getting to know them, made assumptions on others lives before even asking them for any information and then felt like a real jerk after hearing their story. As I sat there thinking over the times I “missed the mark”, so to speak, with my behavior I began to come up with a plan to motivate me towards change.
Years ago I designed a necklace with interchangeable words. The woman I made it for was very spiritual so I “wrote” in wire the nine biblical fruits of the spirit (Love, Joy, Peace, Long-suffering, Kindness, Goodness, Faith, Mildness, Self-Control). She loved it and told me of how she would choose one word, hang it on the necklace and then focus on cultivating that fruitage in her life for one month. That is the inspiration for my plan. I’ll write a word at the top of each month of my planner and then work on it for that month. I will start with mildness since my temper has been poking it’s ugly head out lately.
Want to join me in this endeavor? I’d love to hear your comments on what you’re working on, what method are you using to help you and even some moments you notice yourself doing better. I’ll keep you updated on how I’m doing too!